NVC

Daniela Avelino

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Conflict resolution and public space; Tools for conflict resolution part 1

"I'm having an argument with my sister because she doesn't bathe our pet. We had agreed to take turns and bathe the pet every week, but I've ended up doing it three times in a row."

Observation: "I've noticed that I've been the one bathing our pet for the past three weeks, even though we agreed to take turns." Feelings: "I feel frustrated and overwhelmed because it seems like the responsibility of bathing our pet has fallen solely on me." Needs: "We both value cleanliness and the well-being of our pet, as well as fairness and mutual commitment in our shared responsibilities." Request: "Could we revisit our strategy for taking care of our pet and find a solution that allows us to fulfill our bathing responsibilities more equitably?" Solution: "For instance, we could establish a schedule with more balanced turns for bathing our pet and ensure that we honor the agreement we initially made."

"My dad gets angry because he says he always has to pick up the animal poop, which is not true. It's true that I don't pick it up as often, but it's because I forget, and I also feel that picking it up five times a day is excessive."

Observation: "I've noticed that you feel frustrated because you believe that you're the only one picking up after the animals, although I don't think it's entirely true. While I admit I don't do it as often, it's mainly because I forget, and I also feel that picking up five times a day is excessive." Feelings: "I understand that you're annoyed, and I also feel a bit overwhelmed by the pressure to constantly remember and collect the animal waste." Needs: "We both value a clean living environment and the well-being of our pets. Additionally, I appreciate a sense of balance in our responsibilities." Request: "Could we discuss a more realistic schedule or arrangement for the animal waste cleanup that takes into account our forgetfulness and ensures a fair distribution of the task?" Solution: "For instance, we could try setting reminders or find a practical system that helps us remember and divide the responsibility more evenly. It would be helpful if we could find a middle ground that meets both of our needs."

I chose to resolve the situation with my sister because there is more trust and it turned out well because she understood me and offered to start this week, we just have to hope that if she does

Reflection

By using the prayers and following the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process in my situation with my sister, I was able to experience the benefits of NVC in communication and conflict resolution as it fostered mutual understanding, recognized needs and values shared and in this case collaboration was promoted.